I see way too many women (and men) settling, in every sense of that word, in regards to a mate [/COLOR][/SIZE]AND themselves. Why wouldn't you want to be at your absolute best for yourself and future husband or wife? And I don't mean this strictly from a monetary sense either. Wanting someone with good value systems, character, morals, family background, and education is the right thing, or is it?

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I just don't understand why women seeking a "quality" life seem to be looking for somebody else to provide the basis for it for them. Whether it's through the acquisition of material goods, or the pursuit of a moral life, or the "nobility" of public service. If a woman envisions a certain lifestyle for herself, shouldn't she seek to achieve the things that provide the basis for that lifestyle herself? Why do women seem to subsume their identities into whatever relationship they're in at the moment? Maybe it's hardwired, I read a story by an evolutionary psychologist today that claimed very few women will ever find happiness solely through establishing a successful career.

There is also a segment of the upper middle class that seems to believe that a combined income of somewhere around the 95th percentile will gain them acceptance when they're in the presence of the truly wealthy. They can usually be identified through their overthought mannerisms as well as a set of very subtle tribal markings (L's, V's, C's, G's, etc.). My complaint with these people is that they seem to see the value in themselves only so far as it is reflected off the perceptions of other people. They seem to be interested only in learning about things that other people have already studied, and determined to be valuable.

Now I'm sure that there must have at least one thing about this person's occupation that could have been interesting. At least more interesting than running DCF models on excel all day, or binding pitchbooks. Maybe if she had been taught to explore, and develop her curiosities more while she was at this boarding school, rather than taught to behave in a prim and proper way, she would have gotten a better response from this guy with the plain job. I mean, nearly everybody is a part of this thing that we live in, wasn't she in the least curious about how the whole thing works, and how this guy fit into it? I don't mean to be all fluffy, but I think her response was a bit tactless, and I can understand why this guy's feelings were hurt (although I wouldn't have responded in the same way. Women just seem to be so concerned with who they're getting ****ed by, and not so much about who they're ****ing.