Buy U A Drank: A drink (or gift) obligates a woman to what exactly?

[Posh]

LOL....

1. girl shows up to the bar....subtlety projecting her sexiness...
2. older man falls for trap to hit up a conversation...
3. older man offers to buy a drink.....sucker as always
4. girl accepts....shyly....but knowing she is in a position of power....
5. small talk ensues.......only up to how much chat time is worth the cost of the aforementioned drink...
6. girl kindly excuses herself....(to the bathroom or to her friends)
7. older man feels jilted and suckered.......once again...

though this kind of stuff has been going on since the greeks invented the gods

My take....I would not have accepted his drink........you should know better by now....a man paying for your drink at a bar requires a quid pro quo situation.

I never buy women drinks at the bar...never have....cause I know the game....and I don't like to be left feeling like a sucker....I would rather order them a drink from my table....to your table....that makes it more interesting.

Now, come on! I did not do him like that. And, to be perfectly honest, if a woman had offered me the drink, I would've taken it. That's neither here nor there but it's true.

He never gave me any indication he was going switch like that. He seemed nice and up until he bought it, which I never asked him to do or gave any indication that he should or I wanted that, he was very pleasant. It was nice to chat while waiting for all the other people that came first got served. I would have gladly bought him a drink if I had stayed but clearly me staying to talk to him wasn't going to happen. I thought the drink was a nice gesture not a ploy to get something more from me. Am I looking at this the wrong way?

so let me get this straight, you go to a dinner with your fiance which you rarely do and upon seating and ordering he sends you downstairs to get your own drink at a busy bar? in my opinion the guy without manners in this scenario is seated at your table. and for future reference, as if you didn't know this, if you don't want any unwelcome advances don't accept drinks from men at a bar!

It's a small restaurant and I was already on my way to bathroom (I have a bladder the size of a grape). But I get where you're coming from, Assasi. I really don't require that my man do everything for me, just what's gentlemanly.

And sending me the drink to our table, wouldn't have worked out well. I did not feel like explaining that!

I have a friend that acts like that with random women....

SO FREAKING ANNOYING!

I mean seriously man, what do you expect?









JAY-Z said it best...


"You can pay for school but you cant buy class"

You need to stop. Just buy the drink and move on, Bones. Wait, you said your "friend," right? Okay! Tell the friend to stop. If he buys it and moves on, it make gets us intrigued. We expect guys to act like the guy I met last night. It's refreshing when they don't!

Glance over to the left under my user name.

Wait, I thought that was James because that's who i meant. Oh, gosh. I think I slept with the wrong guy again. This is why I didn't get backstage at the last U2 concert. Poor judgment!

[TimemiT]

Never assume a man's intention.....then again....I'm wrong.....men...we are mostly predictable...primal...easy to dissect and anticipate.

Maybe your friendliness was misinterpreted?....then again...maybe subconsciously, your instinct took over....you noticed a glance from a single man who was seated at an easy access to the bar....your ultimate goal was to get a drink. Cause and effect. Your glance or your standing behind him caused a cascade of events that led to him buying you a drink. Then your action of leaving him caused his outburst!

I wouldn't worry about it too much....Helen of Troy did a greater amount of damage...

Now, come on! I did not do him like that. And, to be perfectly honest, if a woman had offered me the drink, I would've taken it. That's neither here nor there but it's true.

He never gave me any indication he was going switch like that. He seemed nice and up until he bought it, which I never asked him to do or gave any indication that he should or I wanted that, he was very pleasant. It was nice to chat while waiting for all the other people that came first got served. I would have gladly bought him a drink if I had stayed but clearly me staying to talk to him wasn't going to happen. I thought the drink was a nice gesture not a ploy to get something more from me. Am I looking at this the wrong way?