Thanks everyone for the warm welcomes!
Trust me I've been scowering the forum (and most of the suppliers websites) until the wee hours of the morning and still havn't found just what I'm looking for.

roflwaffle, that is a very nice looking watch and has been one I've been considering even though it lacks the butterfly clasp. thanks for the suggestion.
Sadly all the butterfly clasp watches I've been finding are pretty highly polished, and thats just not my thing for what I want it for.

If I decide to go with out a butterfly clasp, I think its gona be between these:
http://www.timeshops.net/Tag_Heuer_L...ic_SS_1205.htm
or
http://www.pc-80108.com/tg10024-link...to-p-1888.html
or
http://www.trustytime88.com/index.ph...roducts_id=538

Some I've found with a butterfly clasp that I like (but are too polished):
(this meets hardly any of my 'criteria' lol)
http://www.timeshops.net/Luminor_Pan...eserve_551.htm

and this one is pretty close, plus I like longines. The watch face is a little busy, but not annoying. Plus I like the font and texture appearance on the dial. Problem is, its just shiny lol.
http://www.timeshops.net/Longines_Ma...n_Auto_474.htm

Take care,
Brad