Endless Love: Marriage dead? Why?

[diablo2112]

Marry me, Posh

[Posh]

Marry me, Posh

You're rich, right?

[limp]

Interesting post, but why were you not able to fully spell GOD ??

[crackberry]

Wonderful post, Posh. I married the first (and only) girl I ever dated, whom I met when she was 16 and I 17. She died of cancer six years ago, after a long marriage. That relationship was the foundation of my life, and I so much needed to find that again. G-d blessed me in finding another wonderful woman, who was similarly widowed by cancer, and to whom I have been married for the last four years. I know others may have bitter experiences for a variety of reasons, and may be cynical about marriage. But, when you have the right partner, it makes life beautiful. I wish you luck in finding such a person.

[limp]

why cant anyone spell GOD ???

[crackberry]

It's a religious thing; not supposed to spell the name of the Diety. Bad luck or something.

[Pugwash]

It's a religious thing; not supposed to spell the name of the Diety. Bad luck or something.

"That piece of halibut was good enough for Jehovah."

[limp]

Did not think religion and luck (good or bad) went together.

[KeineUhr]

why cant anyone spell GOD ???

Since no one really answered, allow me:

It is a custom in the Jewish religion not to spell the out the word god out of respect.


Posh must have been raised Jewish, and therefore the spelling g-d.

[KeineUhr]

You sure are some irreverent mother***kers. You have to twist the knife when someone believes in God or doesn't spell it in writing to observe religious law. Joewatch - I'm sure you're a clever fellow and know why she spells it as such. Playing naive with this crowd isn't going to convince anyone. All in good fun, of course, but I shake my head whenever I watch you iconoclasts slip in your little anti-religious sarcasm (sigh).

That spiel was totally undeserved. Nobody attacked anyones religion. Joewatch's question was a perfectly legitamate one.

[Bearcat]

why cant anyone spell GOD ???

I knew a dyslexic Atheist who didn't believe in DOGs........

[Emperor Penguin]

I was the one who posted the infamous link to the NoMarriage.com website, and my case is quite enigmatic, to say the least. Last November, my parents celebrated their golden (50th!) anniversary. It was a good for me and my whole family to witness together, as my mother was crying profusely. Ironically, despite coming from a family whose parents have been married for fifty years, my view of marriage is more realistic than idealistic.

Posh may chronicle her parents' thirty-five years of blissful moments when together in holy matrimony. That was wonderful to read, yes, but we need to realize here is that we must first understand the lens through which we are seeing these memorable moments. In fairness, we can account for the divorced men who would be more than willing to share with us their miserable moments of being together with their wives. NoMarriage.com is a misogynist litany of the evils of women, and justifiably so because their inherent messages stem from the pain of direct experience. Just as Posh may cherish the positive experiences while simultaneously looking away from the negative experiences from a 35-year marriage, the men behind NoMarriage.com have every right to ignore those positive experiences and dwell on the negative because, with due respect to these hurt men, their pain from negative experiences discount the positive ones, and their pain is very real. We must not only look at the message, but the messenger as well. Examine the lens through which we are seeing what is projected before us. From which frame of reference are we reading these accounts, and what are the intentions and ideals from each author? As some obsequious and overly-idealistic romantic fools impose their dogma upon us because they cling too zealously to their ideals of marriage, we cannot lose sight of the other side of the coin and heed advice from divorced men whose coffers have been emptied.

Should we go ahead and marry for the sake of marrying just because someone dogmatically asserts the virtues of marriage, or should we be more cautious and self-protective when others warn us of its potential evils? I am more of a moderate, but generally I tend to lean toward the latter because in my experiences I, along with many other men, have witnessed episodes that corroborate with the poignant themes of NoMarriage.com. Make no mistake, men: there are many selfish women out there, as millions of divorced men will attest. Of course, one may use my own argument and say that my own lens should be examined, but I will retort that "money talks and bull**** walks." When a divorced man shares with you his pain of paying $5000/month in spousal support, that pain is very real. The whole NoMarriage.com site is a compilation of rants that readers can feel the pain of failed marriages resonating throughout the website. One of my friends is a successful dentist, but after his divorce he pays $85,000/year to his wife. O.J. Simpson had to pay his ex-wife Nicole over $10,000/month in spousal support, and an alimony payment like that would drive some men to kill their ex-wives.

For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, for as long as we both shall live....

These are perhaps the most important declarations one will vow during a marriage ceremony, but realize that it is an ideal that can only be achieved through sincere and unselfish intentions as well as mutual respect.

Proceed with caution, guys--and watch your wallets!

The Emperor has spoken.

[chronoluvvv]

You're rich, right?

well he must save a lot of $$ on gas by commuting on that scooter of his

[diablo2112]

You're rich, right?

But of course. Don't you see the $100k Breguet in my sig? What, you think that's a FAKE?!?

Are you gorgeous?