They Won't Leave in the Night: Diamonds Are ForNEVER!

[mrs-h-]

Socali - Im so glad you have your ring, cant wait to see pics, congratulations on your Engagement.

Samurai Jack - Ive had my Asha for 9 months now and have pretty much worn it every day and its still perfect, i have a very active toddler and chase around after her every day, i cant count how many times ive banged by ring into something to stop her falling and theres not a scratch or nick on it, i have a V5 in a moissanite halo, i posted some pics earlier in this thread, have you found someone to set your stone, try Moissaniteco.com, i got my Asha/Moissanite halo from them and the service was excellent, they also sell their own settings and can custom make something for you, they are very well thought of on the BTD boards.

[samurai jack]

Thanks Mrs. H. Will have a look at their website.

[socaligurl80]

Hi everyone, I wanted to report back. I don't have a camera so I can't take pics but BTD;s ring is AMAZING.

i took it to tiffany in rodeo drive WITH my chanel bling and got EXCELLENT service while looking at their solitaires..

I got a BTD 1.5ct F color version 6ROUND solitaire tiffany reproduction and it looked JUST like a D color tiffany diamond..

we got to see a 2.something solitaire priced at $76k so I was pretty happy about my ring.


however, hubby decided I needed a real diamond in my life as well, so he got me a 1.5ct f color vs1 with very good cut as a real e-ring in a halo setting. I could not sleep for about 4 days thinking about blood diamonds..

I am however happy about both rings and I've worn my asha every single day since I saw her about 10 days ago!!!

my halo is yet to be used...

[socaligurl80]

and i promise comparison pics as soon as I have my camera back!!!

they are both F color but the real diamond looks a bit yellower!

[Posh]

hahaha no no, don't worry Posh, nothing to be sorry about.

i KNOW it's weird huh? LOL

he USED to not approve of rep bags either until we had a HUGE fight about it not too long ago. He would make FUN of me saying I was the FAKE LADY cuz I bought everything fake (i have quite an authentic bag collection but got into buying fakes this year and bought a LOT of bags) I told him if he'd rather have me buy all the bags I did in the authentic version and spend all his money like water once we got married and had joint accounts.

he then agreed I was right and being a LOT more sensible haha


with diamonds.. u are right. It's him wanting to give me the "best" (but what does the best really mean?) and NOT believing sims can be really good or just as good as a nice diamond.

I showed him this pic... and he asked me over and OVER again.. which one is the one I bought cuz he could NOT believe a sim had such fire

and then i explained him.. this is not a FAKE diamond. He needs to think of this as a sparkly stone and voila, his perception about this should change.


pic credit: btd forum

It's nice that you don't have a cheap man, really. They are so blasted many of them walking around! But like my mom always says, there's a time to spend money and there's a time to hold onto it for the future or other more important things. She has always said she'd rather spend that kind of money on having a well-built home (homes built today are SOOOOO thrown together, even so-called "luxury" homes). I can attest to that because the home my parents have was built decades and decades ago and is so completely solid that a structural engineer that they hired for a project they wanted to do in their basement said a wrecking ball would have to strike the home several times before any of the walls would budge. But people would rather casually buy a throw-away McMansion but spend $40,000 on a ring they have scrutinized to the nth degree. Hmmmm . . . lasting sheleter in a sanctuary where you will build a life with your husband or a "rare" rock that can be cleaved by a strike from a butter knife. Which would you choose as a symbol of everlasting love?

But "the best" is terribly subjective and your boyfriend should realize that by this point. Some people feel a Timex is just fine while others need a Rolex to feel like all is right with the world. Then there's us smart replica buyers who know its all just a ridiculous game and the real winner is the person who keeps the most money in their pocket while still gaining the look and performance of the genuine article. That's kind of winner I want to be at the end of the day. I follow the Warren Buffet School of Ostentation: true luxury is the freedom from worry about money and little-to-no debt. He may not have a Ferrari but he could buy one if he desired and that's reassuring enough for him. And that's just plain brilliant and deeply alluring, to me. But I don't think anyone has clued him in to replicas and once he knows he'll have several Rolexes instead of just one! LOL

Socali - Im so glad you have your ring, cant wait to see pics, congratulations on your Engagement.

Samurai Jack - Ive had my Asha for 9 months now and have pretty much worn it every day and its still perfect, i have a very active toddler and chase around after her every day, i cant count how many times ive banged by ring into something to stop her falling and theres not a scratch or nick on it, i have a V5 in a moissanite halo, i posted some pics earlier in this thread, have you found someone to set your stone, try Moissaniteco.com, i got my Asha/Moissanite halo from them and the service was excellent, they also sell their own settings and can custom make something for you, they are very well thought of on the BTD boards.

Mrs-H-, I looked into this and poured over the boards at BTD. I then called and spoke with some jeweler friends and got confirmation of several things. I think a mix of Asha and Moissanite is the best idea because smaller Ashas are so scarce, like the ones one would use in a halo setting. You have the complete right idea! A large center or main Asha with Moissanite as the supporting stone. The good thing about this is that any problems with coloration, which is actually not a huge concern for Moissanite I discovered, is mitigated with a smaller Moissanite. Version 5 Asha, Moissanite and Palladium is an absolute winning combination. I believe your ring is in platinum, correct?

I thoroughly envy you, Mrs-H-. You totally have pulled together the Lady Who Lunches look!! You are who I aspire to be when I become a settled, married lady! Do you drive a Mercedes too? LOL

and i promise comparison pics as soon as I have my camera back!!!

they are both F color but the real diamond looks a bit yellower!

I'm certain we won't be able to tell them apart. I'm so glad we have choices. Ten years ago, you didn't have any cultured diamond or simulated diamond and pretty much had to settle on mined diamonds. Now, we all have options and the options equal diamond in most every measurable way.

Funny enough, I learned from my jeweler friend that the reason diamonds are most often set in yellow gold is because it helps offset the yellowish hue of most diamonds. Whiter metals like platinum, palladium and platinum make that yellow just pop in any setting. I honestly did not know this.

Hi everyone, I wanted to report back. I don't have a camera so I can't take pics but BTD;s ring is AMAZING.

i took it to tiffany in rodeo drive WITH my chanel bling and got EXCELLENT service while looking at their solitaires..

I got a BTD 1.5ct F color version 6ROUND solitaire tiffany reproduction and it looked JUST like a D color tiffany diamond..

we got to see a 2.something solitaire priced at $76k so I was pretty happy about my ring.


however, hubby decided I needed a real diamond in my life as well, so he got me a 1.5ct f color vs1 with very good cut as a real e-ring in a halo setting. I could not sleep for about 4 days thinking about blood diamonds..

I am however happy about both rings and I've worn my asha every single day since I saw her about 10 days ago!!!

my halo is yet to be used...

I understand, Socal. I was the the social crusader child even when I was small. My parents told me how I would constantly be giving my things away as a toddler and "helping" strangers if I ran off out of view. LOL It hasn't changed but I temper it with a bit more practicality.

But buying that ring had more to do with himself than you. He bought it to prove something more to himself because I'm sure you were being completely direct and honest when you told him an Asha would do. The thing to do is just accept it and wear it occasionally so that his ego is soothed; men are such simple creatures in this regard. Just like I say to the guys around here to get her what she asked you for or what she wants, that also goes for the ladies who have men who insist on getting them expensive gifts. Sometimes, it is to show the world he's prosperous and can lavish his woman with just about anything she likes. I can't stress how nice it is to have a man who wants to ensure you WANT FOR NOTHING. To me, that's how it should be but I think my views may considered old-fashioned. Either way, I have a couple of genuine bags for just this reason! It tickles him and makes him happy to be able to buy them for me so I indulge him by accepting them. LOL

[samurai jack]

Socali - Im so glad you have your ring, cant wait to see pics, congratulations on your Engagement.

Samurai Jack - Ive had my Asha for 9 months now and have pretty much worn it every day and its still perfect, i have a very active toddler and chase around after her every day, i cant count how many times ive banged by ring into something to stop her falling and theres not a scratch or nick on it, i have a V5 in a moissanite halo, i posted some pics earlier in this thread, have you found someone to set your stone, try Moissaniteco.com, i got my Asha/Moissanite halo from them and the service was excellent, they also sell their own settings and can custom make something for you, they are very well thought of on the BTD boards.

I couldn't find anyplace on Moissaniteco.com where I could buy Asha. Could you please help with this?

[Posh]

I couldn't find anyplace on Moissaniteco.com where I could buy Asha. Could you please help with this?

Jack, Asha is sold ONLY by Betterthandiamond.com (there's no such thing as "factory seconds" or anything so if a seller you find is advertising this, they're purveying something else). BTD holds the technology and soon-to-be-patented processes used to make Asha behave visually very much like a mined diamond.

Go to their site and you can see loose stones, set stones, cultured pearls, cultured diamonds, cultured rubies, cultured Alexandrte and cultured emeralds. Almost everything they offer is 99.999999% indistinguishable from their natural counterpart thanks to science.

[samurai jack]

Thanks Posh. Mrs. H had mentioned getting Asha V5/Halo from Moissaniteco.com .....so was wondering if they sold loose Asha stones as well. So the best option would be to buy Asha loose stone....have it shipped to one of the known/trusted jewellers (who can handle Asha) and then have something custom-designed. What say?

[Posh]

Thanks Posh. Mrs. H had mentioned getting Asha V5/Halo from Moissaniteco.com .....so was wondering if they sold loose Asha stones as well. So the best option would be to buy Asha loose stone....have it shipped to one of the known/trusted jewellers (who can handle Asha) and then have something custom-designed. What say?

Your welcome, Jack. Yes, if you prefer to have a custom setting done, buying a loose Asha is going to be your best bet. At the BTD forums, there are several trusted jewelers who do custom work and are familiar with how to set Asha correctly. Also, BTD offers instructions that you can print and give to any other jeweler or smithy with whom you prefer to work. If for whatever reason the instructions prove foreign to that individual, they offer a number that the artisan can call to get guidance. There's a LOT of support even after you buy your stone and they make sure you are happy even after the ring is on your finger!

[mrs-h-]

Samurai Jack - Moissaniteco dont have an Asha section on theitr own site yet as they are working on their very own Asha site, if you e-mail them or contact them via the live help area on their site they will advise you, they also sell Asha's unset, they recently did a run of Old European Cut Asha's and they were TDF, i love the old cuts and these were spectacular but a bit on the small side for me and they sold out very quickly.

Posh - I dont drive, but if i did it would probably be a Land Rover , im very fortunate to live in a city with excellent transport links but will be moving to rural Ireland some time next yeat and will need to drive then, my ring is in 14K white gold as it wasnt offered in Palladium at the time of purchase or i would have chosen that instead.

Socali - So glad you love your ring, i've left my diamond engagement ring in my jewelery box since getting my Asha, i love it, your Halo sounds gorgeous, hope to see some pics.

[samurai jack]

Here is a question that remains kinda unsolved for me.....to go for V5 or V6? Heard V5 is closer to real deal but V6 is more resillient. Would it make sense to get....say a V5 for a ring and V6 for earrings/pendant (as there is hardly any wear n tear with these accessories when compared to a ring).

[socaligurl80]

comparison pics

both are 1.5ct

the tiffany solitaire is a v6 asha, it has some (a LOT) of inclusions I had not noticed until I took pics (I´m not a hardcore jewellery person so I dont own a lupe)

and the halo setting ring is a real diamond F color VS clarity GIA

notice how the heart and arrows on the real diamond are smaller



btw, i noticed this only AFTER I took the pics but it REALLY bothers me how the REAL diamond is set in such a crooked way

[Posh]

Socal, I see what you mean. But you have to be looking at it very closely. They both look great and I think both are winners. I have been considering a right hand ring with Moissanite and Asha but am having a hard time choosing a pre-cast setting. Do you think custom work would be good to shoot for or is there too many pratt falls with that route? I'm scared because I don't want to be that woman who is labeled difficult because something is a millimeter off. And you know what? I AM that woman. LOLJack, version 6 Asha, from what I have read, is trying to compete more with Moissanite than diamond, like version 5 seems to be. Version 6 sparkles more, like large Moissanite, because sparkle seems to be the order of the day with modern tastes. It doesn't seem to be enough to just have the diamond sitting on your hand, quietly waiting for recognition; it now has to announce its presence and demand accolades. LOL You have to go with what looks right to you. The solution? Buy both and send back the one that does not work for your personality, wardrobe and style.

[nderwater]

Mrs. Nderwater recently had a local jeweler make a custom antique setting for her 2ct Asha. Before it was mounted, each of the jewelers & gemologists we showed it to were extremely impressed with stone. One gemologist was gushing over it, and even showed it to us under her microscope without ever realizing that it was only a CZ. Now that the stone is mounted, in a quality setting it's easily mistaken for a $50,000 vintage piece.

[Posh]

Mrs. Nderwater recently had a local jeweler make a custom antique setting for her 2ct Asha. Before it was mounted, each of the jewelers & gemologists we showed it to were extremely impressed with stone. One gemologist was gushing over it, and even showed it to us under her microscope without ever realizing that it was only a CZ. Now that the stone is mounted, in a quality setting it's easily mistaken for a $50,000 vintage piece.

This just shows the quality and effort that goes into these very special simulants. Getting cultured white diamonds is very difficult (thank you, DeBeers) and will probably be that way until whatever agreement DeBeers has with the cultured diamond industry (which I'm certain includes cash) is broken or expires. The Asha is the next best thing and actually makes more sense economically.

Wink has made it possible for men and women to indulge their jewelry fantasies for far less than ever before. Betterthandiamond.com is the democratization of jewlery on a truly grand scale. And with the leftover money you can still eat and save for a rainy day!

[SFA437]

I've been contemplating a mans ring, white gold/platinum/palladium with a large emerald for some time now. I have a massive jones for anything green (won't even buy a car if it's not green) and the white metal/green stone combo I simply love.

Having perused BTD's site I am most definitely going with a cultured one. Emeralds are mined in much the same way as diamonds with a lot more ecological damage and similar social impact on the local people. When you add in the clarity of the BTD stone vice a mined one and the perfect greenish blue color as well as the price it's a no brainer!

Now to find a nice setting that catches my eye.

[nderwater]

Funny you should mention that - next on my wife's wishlist is a Chatham cultured Emerald ring. She's even more into researching jewelry and gemstones than I am into watches.

[Posh]

I've been contemplating a mans ring, white gold/platinum/palladium with a large emerald for some time now. I have a massive jones for anything green (won't even buy a car if it's not green) and the white metal/green stone combo I simply love.

Having perused BTD's site I am most definitely going with a cultured one. Emeralds are mined in much the same way as diamonds with a lot more ecological damage and similar social impact on the local people. When you add in the clarity of the BTD stone vice a mined one and the perfect greenish blue color as well as the price it's a no brainer!

Now to find a nice setting that catches my eye.

Cultured emeralds are the way to go, S. Just like nature, only better. And more eco-friendly.

And here's another tip you may want to use regarding a jewelry piece: find a jeweler who makes custom pieces frequently. In New York, this is a snap. Just do what we women have done for decades and have it made. And we don't have pieces made because there are no options out there for us that are already done; we have things made because we can and we're picky. Just find a jeweler who will listen to your needs and is in tune with your imagination.

It's just like choosing the person you will have decorate/design your house or do your nose job. Your home being your sanctuary, you wouldn't just let anyone do anything with it, right? Same applies to your body which is your temple. How your temple is adorned matters and you need someone who has done a lot temples. So whether you're getting a tummy tuck or tiara, GET REFERENCES. I'm sure that you want to have a piece that you can, without shame, pass on to little S. who'll like it enough to wear it even when you're not around. And custom work is not as pricey as it would sound. The jewelers who do custom pieces frequently are less expensive than those whose primary business is the ready-made works. The BTD forums are full of people who know industry people who do this kind of work and come highly recommended.

Definitely check it out.

[crackberry]

Great to see your posts, again, Posh. Been missing reading your missives.

[Posh]

Great to see your posts, again, Posh. Been missing reading your missives.

Thank you, Berry. You're very kind. I really try.

[Dave123]

O.k?. You can do better than that.

Don't buy diamonds for your wife,buy fake ones.

So if everyone did that,what would be the appeal?.

Why buy a Benz when a bus pass does the same thing,and is more eco-friendly.

[Archronos]

Jewelry is junk. Just because I've paid a lot of money for some of it doesn't make it not junk. The fact that something is expensive doesn't make it not junk. The fact that it was found in a pile of dirt doesn't make it not junk.

CVD diamonds are far more perfect than anything that could be found naturally anyway.

And a blowjob is a blowjob. Maybe it make more sense for somebody to channel resources into something that results in individual productivity gains rather than supporting a wife.

[Dave123]

Jewelry is junk. Just because I've paid a lot of money for some of it doesn't make it not junk. The fact that something is expensive doesn't make it not junk. The fact that it was found in a pile of dirt doesn't make it not junk.

CVD diamonds are far more perfect than anything that could be found naturally anyway.

And a blowjob is a blowjob. Maybe it make more sense for somebody to channel resources into something that results in individual productivity gains rather than supporting a wife.

Yes.

But you are buying a fake of the real thing,and i know this is not the forum for that discussion i guess,but there is the desire to buy the fake of that 'junk' you are talking about,and while the minority is o.k with trying to pull off fakes,the majority won't settle for less than the real deal,of course.

Right?.

[Posh]

O.k?. You can do better than that.

Don't buy diamonds for your wife,buy fake ones.

So if everyone did that,what would be the appeal?.

Why buy a Benz when a bus pass does the same thing,and is more eco-friendly.

I'm not one of those people who equates a genuine bag or genuine watch or genuine ring with a stone in it to love or respect or caring. And I suspect that many other people, men and women, feel the same way I do. I don't look at buying a replica watch, bag, simulant or cultured gemstone as buying something of low quality. Many of these items are as good and made the same way (sometimes in the same place) as the original I look at it like you saved all this money, money that could be put in savings, used for a trip somewhere in the world at moment's notice or even given to charity so someone somwhere can have sandwich. I know very well that some of the replica bags I carry and the few replica watches I own look just like the real thing and will pass in 99% of the situations I'm in in my life. And I don't run in circles where repping is okay by any means. Just buy selectively and carefully, just like you would with anything else.

And I drive Mercedes. Trust me, there's nothing to it. Somebody can buy the same car with the same mileage for the price of a new Ford Taurus and look like they paid retail, just like me.

I value financial independence and frugality. That doesn't mean I live in ascetism or buy off brand at grocery store. Since I work in the luxury goods industry and analyze this stuff on a daily basis, I see it all for what it really is: overpriced junk. Well, maybe not junk, but definitely crap.

But I carry all this stuff with pride and my man can give me this stuff without fear of disrespecting me. He knows who I am. I would rather have a vacation house in Hilton Head than a 4 carat diamond ring in a five story walk-up in Park Slope.

[Archronos]

I'm just saying there are marks out there that will bite at anything shiny, and pay lots of money for it. I'm not a fish or a mark. Maybe we're just from different generations, but I channel resources the way I do without shame. I value some things very highly, and others not so highly. I think diamonds are junk. They will never approach the complexity of man-made artifacts that embody an accumulation of hundreds of years of knowledge. Except for the CVD ones.

Maybe diamonds will someday be used to make computer chips, and then the naturally made ones will be considered junk because they're so flawed, small, and therefore useless. Diamonds can't be melted down into a uniform product like gold. They embody discrete units of imperfectedness. Even if the natural ones are refined, they will never be perfect.

The price of a diamond is based on its supposed rarity, but they aren't rare:

http://www.nytimes.com/slideshow/200...NDS_index.html

and there are a lot of people that either don't feel like thinking for themselves, or can't, so they value, and desire things only according to price. Price is, after all, the consensually agreed upon value of an object.

If for some reason CVD diamonds become more expensive than natural diamonds (which might some day be considered junk), will you then look down on people purchasing natural diamonds for their wives because they are purchasing the cheaper alternative? The flawed natural stone that is a poor approximation of a perfect stone?