Buy U A Drank: A drink (or gift) obligates a woman to what exactly?

**joshpg** · 09-22-2011, 08:00 PM

It is impossible to judge the situation without seeing it played out. Body language, vocal inflection, etc. Bottom line is though, even IF you were in the wrong and he was offended, the classy thing for him to do would be to move on with his life and strike up a conversation with someone else. He reacted as you would expect Kid Rock to do, not a gentleman.

**Posh** · 09-22-2011, 09:10 PM

That would have been nice but too much to hope for at that point. And like Rice said, it was probably placed on a company credit card or expensed. LOL

**mrs-h-** · 09-24-2011, 06:26 PM

I can't beleive how rude some people can be, i agree with LouisRuby, the guy wanted more and was not happy when he didnt get it, so he made a scene, sorry this happened to you.

**bruce sloane** · 09-24-2011, 06:41 PM

Originally Posted by replicageekfan

^^^^ This

+ !

**MrZoSo** · 09-24-2011, 07:19 PM

I asked my wife what she would have done under this exact same circumstance. She said, NO. You are opening a door that should be locked tight. Her words.

**OmegaPOFL** · 09-24-2011, 07:40 PM

omg hound doggie.... you're hilarious

lololol

**Posh** · 09-26-2011, 11:35 PM

Originally Posted by mrs-h-

I can't beleive how rude some people can be, i agree with LouisRuby, the guy wanted more and was not happy when he didnt get it, so he made a scene, sorry this happened to you.

Thanks. It was startling and eye opening, if nothing else!

Originally Posted by MrZoSo

I asked my wife what she would have done under this exact same circumstance. She said, NO. You are opening a door that should be locked tight. Her words.

I can certainly respect that. I thought in 2011, that since we'd chatted quickly and had a pleasant conversation, that a drink was simply a nice gesture from one individual to another. Maybe I was being naive but I also wasn't accepting a car! Well, he's definitely broken me of that habit. At least for the rest of this year.

**GreenHornet** · 10-03-2011, 02:10 AM

My take: Old Geezer with the company credit card..... Hot young babe, nice smile, charming small talk!

The guy thought he hit the jackpot, but realized he rolled craps... Typical male chauvinist pig response. LOL

Yeah the guy is a total jerk. Any good businessman knows, you don't sign the contract before you understand the terms. Obviously he was not a very good businessman at all.

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**pascal1976** · 12-27-2011, 02:54 PM

That guy is completely classless. A drink obligates the woman to nothing at all, and when you offer to buy one, you should expect nothing in return. There is no uwritten contract that accepting a drink obligates you to talk with them. A drink is often the entree into some sort of conversation, but if I buy a woman a drink, I can't get angry if she then goes off to talk to someone else....

**Triple-d** · 12-27-2011, 04:37 PM

Poshy....you need to get one of those sandwich boards and put the rates on it when you go to a bar....
1 Cheap drink.........................you get the time of day
1 Good drink..........................5 minutes of chit chat
1 Rep Birkin............................A massage at the bar
1 Gen Birkin............................A massage....WHEREVER
1 Four whell drive Porchee......

Bidness is Bidness.........

Hey you made it clear up front you were with your fiance..... the buyer is the jerk, for making a scene.
Personally....I have bought drinks and gifts, because I wanted to. I never expect anything in return.

**Posh** · 12-27-2011, 07:18 PM

Originally Posted by pascal1976

That guy is completely classless. A drink obligates the woman to nothing at all, and when you offer to buy one, you should expect nothing in return. There is no uwritten contract that accepting a drink obligates you to talk with them. A drink is often the entree into some sort of conversation, but if I buy a woman a drink, I can't get angry if she then goes off to talk to someone else....

Well, I've heard both sides and one of the sides has chastised me for my actions! I'm a very, very naughty girl.

Originally Posted by Triple-d

Poshy....you need to get one of those sandwich boards and put the rates on it when you go to a bar....
1 Cheap drink.........................you get the time of day
1 Good drink..........................5 minutes of chit chat
1 Rep Birkin............................A massage at the bar
1 Gen Birkin............................A massage....WHEREVER
1 Four whell drive Porchee......

Bidness is Bidness.........

Hey you made it clear up front you were with your fiance..... the buyer is the jerk, for making a scene.
Personally....I have bought drinks and gifts, because I wanted to. I never expect anything in return.

You know, I may just do that! And the funny part is you pretty much have the price list layed out perfectly. Were you in any of my Financial Geology classes? You seem like you have a master's degree!

Unfortunately, the incident has made me leery to accept things offered by strange men for fear I'll owe them something. Well, not all strange men.

I'm really bad at saying no.

**gelite** · 12-28-2011, 05:01 AM

I never told him. He's one of those "crazy Russians" and it isn't worth the hassle. Trust. LOL

It's certainly not a Russian thing but I agree with the guy. Perhaps not his response but what he must have felt. You had every right to accept the drink but the polite response would have been to either turn him down or keep him company if you chose to accept it.

**DanielleDavidson** · 10-08-2015, 06:04 AM

Wow, that is honestly crazy. I mean I get that he bought you the drink, but I don't think that YOU should have to stay with him. I think that it was a nice gesture for him to do that, but it was rude what he said. I mean I honestly can't believe that he would ever say that. That is just rude, and honestly you shouldn't have felt the need to stay with him because he knew that you were engaged.

**bentleyblower** · 12-12-2016, 05:40 PM

Got to say Posh - You should not have accepted a drink from a stranger - C'mon, you know the rules.
You know full well what predatory animals we guys are and we have sad egos to feed.

**daytonadragon** · 12-12-2016, 05:54 PM

Originally Posted by bentleyblower

Got to say Posh - You should not have accepted a drink from a stranger - C'mon, you know the rules.
You know full well what predatory animals we guys are and we have sad egos to feed.

Last time Posh posted on RG was in November 2012.

**momo75** · 12-12-2016, 06:28 PM

lololol! Wow...that was a blast from what appears to be a very distant past!

**The Dude** · 12-12-2016, 07:01 PM

Originally Posted by bentleyblower

Got to say Posh - You should not have accepted a drink from a stranger - C'mon, you know the rules.
You know full well what predatory animals we guys are and we have sad egos to feed.

Thread is 5 years old mate, Posh hasn't been around in yonks.