Money For Nothing: Do we want too much?

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Regardless of what value system one should choose their mate by. Your friend made the decision based on the man's income, not his character which everything aside had kept her entertained for some time. This IS superficial gold digger behavior.

Anyway asking people how much they make is bad taste at least in Europe, and if someone brought up what do you do for a living or how much do you earn in conversation they would have a lot of harsh judgment thrown their way. If it were a woman I would certainly think of her as a whore, if it was a man I would think mental trauma, but thats just me...

First off, it's obvious you didn't read all the pages and that's okay. My friend is nice and she said what she said with all the grace of a girl who went to a Swiss boarding school should. She didn't make ANY decision about this man who she had JUST met.

Second off, dude, she didn't ask him how much he made; it's universally understood that you don't do that in polite company. No, again, where I live, asking people what they do is quite all right. So tone it down.

But interested in chiming in...

While it is clear that the fella at the party was quite insecure, there are social graces that your friend lacked in that situation. Whether one is interested or not in the answer to a question...almost ANY question..."Oh, that's nice" and nothing more is a reply that lacks a bit of decorum and grace. All physical and emotional and superficial interest aside in this fellow, even the slightest addition to "Oh, that's nice" would have made her look better and made him feel better...grace and decorum work for everyone.

Settling is relative. Everyone has a vision of traits that they require in a mate and other traits that would be nice to have. Perfection is an elusive target....

No sane, reasonabale person (excepts Leos) expects perfection. LOL What we should expect is excellence. There's a LOT of mediocrity around and I for one will not celebrate it.

Well, to answer your question honestly - some people have too high of standards, some too low, and some people are realistic.

I don't really see where your girlfriend was in the wrong. I don't think she said anything out of line, and if you interpreted her tone correctly, it doesn't sound like she was rude. Furthermore, if she's out looking for Mr. Right and know who and what Mr. Right is - what's the problem?

I see so many people settle that it is refreshing to see people who aren't willing to do the same. For example - my sister. I won't go into the details, but because she is so dear to me, it really, really is tough seeing her struggle as a result of the choice she made to settle for the man (boy) she is with now.

Amen.