Why'd You Come In Here Looking Like That?: Not Enough Do's and Too Many Don'ts

[Posh]

Posh,

I think the reason for that is that we condition each other to accentuate the things that makes us attractive to the opposite sex. Lets face it women are attracted to power and status primarily and men to youth and beauty, they say its hardwired because of the basic procreation needs. How much money a women makes or can make is very low on our priority scale and what we look like is low on yours, OK not you personally, but as a gender it is.So ugly poorly dressed guys can be attractive as long as they have means, or so the theory goes anyway.

Its a good thing too or I would be in big trouble ;-)

I wasn't gonna elaborate but your reply pretty much forces my hand.

That WAS the way it used to be, women (or their families) looking at men with means to support them. Today, a lot of women are better educated and many times better employed than some men, which is why that old feminist standby that states "men make more money than women" bothers me and many other new style feminists. A LOT of women don't need a man to support them. Almost every single woman I know doesn't need a man for money. And if they have a man, he looks really good or is straight up hot as **** along with being gainfully employed.

Money, as ANYONE will tell you, is the greatest equalizer. And now that we have that, we can expect (and demand) more from men than money. This can be seen as a godsend (for poor, pretty men) or disruption of the male power structure. I prefer to think of it as both.

The "golddigger" term is thrown around a lot but usually the man using the term, has no money.

[painm8ker]

I wasn't gonna elaborate but your reply pretty much forces my hand.

That WAS the way it used to be, women (or their families) looking at men with means to support them. Today, a lot of women are better educated and many times better employed than some men, which is why that old feminist standby that states "men make more money than women" bothers me and many other new style feminists. A LOT of women don't need a man to support them. Almost every single woman I know doesn't need a man for money. And if they have a man, he looks really good or is straight up hot as **** along with being gainfully employed.

Money, as ANYONE will tell you, is the greatest equalizer. And now that we have that, we can expect (and demand) more from men than money. This can be seen as a godsend (for poor, pretty men) or disruption of the male power structure. I prefer to think of it as both.

The "golddigger" term is thrown around a lot but usually the man using the term, has no money.

While I agree with you in principal the dynamic has shifted a little but not as much as we would like to believe and its not about needing money. I agree with you women don't need a man to support them as much anymore. You still see that in a large part of the world but not as much in the US (OK the 20% in the US below the poverty line still see it). That being said every woman I know, even the ones dragging down 6 figures, still want a guy who is more successful then them. Its basic human psychology we define success in relative terms to ourselves. For us to consider someone a success they have to be doing better then us. So why do most women need the guy to be more succesful? the basic instincts are still there, women are hard coded to look for the best provider/protector. That's not bad its just is what it is. Like I said it gives ugly guys hope. Bill Gates ain't ever gonna win $20 in a beauty contest but he is never gonna have trouble finding a date neither.

Why is a poor but good looking guy more deserving then an ugly rich one? Everything else being equal, you don't have to do anything to be good looking your just born that way to be rich you actually have to work at it (most of the time). If you ask me a "golddigger" is more equal opportunity then a someone who chases the hot guys. I think either is OK anyway as long as your honest, if you stay with someone you hate because they are really hot or really rich your a looser anyway so whats the difference?