Money For Nothing: Do we want too much?

[hoochman]

When I can send all three of my children to The Hopkins School, Sarah Lawrence (my mom's old stomping grounds), Sweet Briar (my grandmother's college) and Oberlin (my daddy's alma mater) with love and acceptance, let me know . . .

Well you can get 'that' if you are looking for materialism from a relationship.

Are you sending them to the above schools for you or for them? Is it a strong maternal instinct? If so good. But I think your measuring stick for being a good mother could be measured differently

I've been with many a woman who saw dollars signs in their eyes while we dated, somehow I just couldn't seem to love them enough or come to the conclusion to marry. Maybe it really isn't about them. I just wanted to love someone not be the 'answer' to all 'problems' imaginable.

Afterall there really never is enough money regardles of your tax bracket and you really cannot instill happiness, self worth, esteem, value, security into someone who does not already have it. I think in the bet case scenario you could compliment it but beyond that it really unfair to ask that of your partner. I think the most valued thing I could give my wife is unconditional love and acceptance.

Posh you always post interesting, well thought out post. And lets say i find you intruguing, exciting / erotic perhaps stimulating is a better word... I don't know if your intent is to radiate materialism but it does come accross that way. I supect there is a humbler side of you and that would be not as fun obviously on an internet forum.

[josevancouver]

Posh you always post interesting, well thought out post. And lets say i find you intruguing, exciting / erotic perhaps stimulating is a better word... I don't know if your intent is to radiate materialism but it does come accross that way. I supect there is a humbler side of you and that would be not as fun obviously on an internet forum.

I had to smile when I read this. On a message board like Repgeek, one can always try to project who they are, who they want to be, or simply create a caricatre of themselves to drive discussion. I enjoy reading Posh's posts/comments. I'm trying to decide whether I miss her strap wristshots more though

[spekoli]

Afterall there really never is enough money regardles of your tax bracket and you really cannot instill happiness, self worth, esteem, value, security into someone who does not already have it. I think in the bet case scenario you could compliment it but beyond that it really unfair to ask that of your partner. I think the most valued thing I could give my wife is unconditional love and acceptance.

couldn't agree more

[Posh]

Driving discussion is something I'm more than up for, really. But provoking deeper thought into what drives us daily is even more interesting.
As far as personas or facades go in Internet forums, I'm not that much different from what you gather I am on here. I believe I'm an intelligent, caring, strong-willed, moral, luxury-minded religious enough hot young half-shicksa goddess with a very loving heart and a modest nature who teaches yoga and pilates when I'm not saving clients from certain doom. What I am NOT is a ditzy, shallow, weak, superficial, slutty Anna Nicole Smith acolyte with my head stuck up my @ss, wondering what's in it for me.

As far as what I want for my own future and the that of my future children is the same life my parents gave to me and my sister. We had a wonderful childhood filled with all the things children want and need: affectionate married parents who encouraged learning and gaining knowledge and let us be ourselves while still giving us gentle discipline and structure. No abuse, no molestation, no oversheltering. We went on family vacations to Disneyland, Disney World, Europe, China and South America. And I even got the chance to spend my summers living in Italy with my aunt. We were great kids and for that our parents gave us everything we ever wanted. When I turned 18, I got a brand new Jetta. When I wanted a cell phone, I got it. When I wanted new clothes, I got them. Same way with my sister who got even more since she's the baby.

As far as schooling went, we both went to private colleges, but not to our parent's respective schools which I told them I'd correct with grandkiddies. That wasn't inexpensive but thank heavens we had parents with the money to cover everything. We didn't have to struggle through childhood or early adulthood. Some people believe struggling through certain things, or even anything, will make you a better person than someone who doesn't. I'm here to tell you that's patently untrue. Struggling turns you in a person who think everything is or should be a struggle to be worth anything. While I respect this line of thinking and don't belittle anyone's hardships, I definitely know the major benefits of having a life that was more idyllic, so to speak. Kids and teens should be able to just focus on learning, growing and enjoying their lives and innocence while things are still relatively uncomplex.

I could be an uneducated, emotionally unstable, drug addled and under-adjusted stripper b*tch with a daddy complex and an eating disorder but I'm not. I thank the strong values and strong union of my parents for that. I'm bringing and giving my absolute best in everything I do whether it be mentally, physically, spiritually and financially. I work hard, I play hard and I especially love hard. But that's because I have been the recipient of the benefits of that, growing up. Parents who don't have a lot of things to argue about, love each other and offer the best they can to their children, whatever that may be, help make this world better by filling it with happy people who want good things for everyone.

[Pugwash]

I could be an uneducated, emotionally unstable, drug addled and under-adjusted stripper b*tch with a daddy complex and eating disorder but I'm not.

Aw, damn. I was just starting to like you, too.

[J-C]

Aw, damn. I was just starting to like you, too.

[roflwaffle]

As far as schooling went, we both went to private colleges, but not to our parent's respective schools which I told them I'd correct with grandkiddies.

Don't really know what happened to this thread.. don't care at this point

but this quote of yours above made me giggle to myself. Nothing like forcing progeny into things that we ourselves didn't want to do. Closing doors of others to keep ours open, etc.

Just amusing is all.

[Posh]

Oh, Waffle, harsh! We'll get a DISCOUNT if we send them there . . . And I can get nice things with that money saved!

[roflwaffle]

Oh, Waffle, harsh! We'll get a DISCOUNT if we send them there . . . And I can get nice things with that money saved!

True, a bit harsh.

You can get a bigger discount if you raise smart kids, and force them to get financial aid/scholarships/student loans.
... student loans sounds harsh.. but.. knowing they have something at stake.. well.. might motivate them not to... slack off.

I swear, out of all the people i know who dropped out, I swear 90% of them were 'mommy and daddy paid for 100% of my schooling, this is great, its like a vacation'...

or an even bigger discount if you raise 'stripper whatever daddy complex' kids as mentioned about... schoolings real cheap then



My $0.02 on oberlin... nice school... but... FFS, its in the middle of Lorain County Ohio..

what? havnt heard of it? well.. lets see... i think theres some cows..

hrm.. a bit too far west for the amish in ohio.. but.. um... maybe a gas station..


um.. very flat...

see where I'm going with this?

[Posh]

True, a bit harsh.

You can get a bigger discount if you raise smart kids, and force them to get financial aid/scholarships/student loans.
... student loans sounds harsh.. but.. knowing they have something at stake.. well.. might motivate them not to... slack off.

I swear, out of all the people i know who dropped out, I swear 90% of them were 'mommy and daddy paid for 100% of my schooling, this is great, its like a vacation'...



My $0.02 on oberlin... nice school... but... FFS, its in the middle of Lorain County Ohio..

what? havnt heard of it? well.. lets see... i think theres some cows..

hrm.. a bit too far west for the amish in ohio.. but.. um... maybe a gas station..


um.. very flat...

see where I'm going with this?

I addressed this. I didn't slack off because my mom and dad paid for all our schooling; that's wasting money and my mother's favorite saying is never throw good money after bad. They ingrained the value of education in us when we were VERY young.

And most great schools are in weird areas. My uncle went to Grinnell College and that's in Bumf*ck, Iowa. But it's a fantastic school that I actually was going to go to until I changed my mind about my major.

YOU can make your kids take out loans to pay for their school. MY kids never will. I will pay for their education until they say they are done with being educated. Simple as that. They will not start life off in debt.

What's at stake for them is my love, approval and respect. I own you. Don't defy me.

NO MORE WIRE HANGERS!!!!!!!