Quote Originally Posted by Posh View Post
[SIZE=3][COLOR=Red] I think three of those things must include someone from a healthy family background, good character and similar value systems to your own. That ensures the longevity of anyone's marriage.

If you take a chance on choosing someone based on ANY other criteria than these three simple tenets, your marriage is doomed to failure.
Posh,

I have two points for you to consider, I am an Orphan for all intents and purposes, I had no family as a child to speak of, does that mean you think no one should ever marry me? I Don't think this is what you meant but that's what your statement says. I know a lot of people from screwed up family's or no family at all who turn out OK (don't punish the son for the sins of the father). I agree the odds are better with someone from a "healthy" family life but to write off those of us who didn't get that chance without ever meeting us seems a little harsh.

You also said "I don't think there is any obstacle that cannot be overcome in a marriage, short of abuse and addiction." You left off infidelity, you seem to have issues with that too based on your pretty woman post and no, infidelity is not an addiction. I think the heart of all the issues to end a marriage is trust. All kinds of things can lead to the trust going out of a marriage but once that happens its time to part ways.

Great posts BTW very thought provoking and informative.