Hrm..

well... touching on the subject of love rather than marriage..

i think a lot of people get so caught up in finding that 'special one'

the 'one' person in the world that can make you happy..

I think sometime down the marriage trail, whether through experiences or just wisdom, people tend to realize that there isnt just 'one' person in the entire world that you would be happy with...

If you look at the concept of romanticism, you can see its a lot about fatalism.. that all or nothing... obsession..

which isnt right.

there are plenty of people in this world you could be *just* as happy with. You are not a unique and special snowflake, or if you are, theres another snowflake out there that is similiar enough, maybe in different ways.

So yea, marriage has its flaws.. without being cynical about love. love is real, and it can last... but i think many people have a hard time coping with the fact that
1) if there is only one person in the world for you, and that person turns to crap... then you are screwed
2) maybe you chose the wrong person.. need to find that 'one'
3) got married for the wrong reason 'i love him/her, so he/she must be the 'one', full stop'...
etc etc..

Um.. where was I going with this again?